Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Successful marriage

People say "Love isn't always enough". I say it always is. The people that say it isn't enough are not in love. They are confusing their lust with love. When one loves another, there are no limits. He will go to the ends of the earth and will die for the one they love.

The marriage will always have bickering over dumb stuff, and sometimes over serious stuff, but there will always be enough love to over come any obstacle.

Strive for that kind of relationship.

Key ingredients in a successful marriage:

- Relationship with God
- Communication
- Truth

Relationship with God

If you are not right with God, chances are, you won't be right with your spouse. Having a relationship with God clears up the rights and wrongs, it straightens your morals. Once those are in place, you will be able to act as a responsible and wise spouse.

Find God. It is so simple. Many people make it seem so hard to do.

"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." John 3:16

That's it. Believe on him. Believe that he has paid for all your sins, you are clean in front of him. The weight of sin will be lifted from you. Believe and ask god to come into your life and clean you of sin. That's it. Everything else will be added on from there. There is no greater joy then to know that you are forgiven. If you would like more information please contact me at valik@mirru.com or my pastor, Bob Davis, Clayton Johnson or Brad Hardy at the North Country Chapel - 1-800-572-8851 or online at http://www.northcountrychapel.com/contactus.htm

Communication

Communication with your spouse is so important. Without it the marriage will be sick and deteriorate with time.

It starts from the time you meet. If you are past that point not all is lost. This may hurt and may be hard on the both of you but once it is done you ail have a happy, healthy marriage. It may also take some time to get through all of it.

Open up to each other. Share your dreams, your hurts and your problems. Even secrets. There should not be any secrets for you to be free and open with each other. It took a long time for my wife and me to get to this point. It hurt and it was scary. But love has prospered.

Too much openness at once can be very stressful, so take time. Open up one step at a time. Support each other at it. Do not judge each other for it. You need to support each other and make him/her feel free to share their problems, their "skeletons in the closets". Make each other feel comfortable to open up.

Once the issues are on the table they are easier to deal with, with the support of the loved one.

Also let each other know how they make you feel. Learn to make each other feel loved. We found a great book that talks about the languages of love. It is based on psychology of a person. You can learn how your loved one works, what makes him or her tick. You will be amazed once you read this book. It is so dead on. This book helped us discover each other.

Go on a date, talk with each other, ask how the day has been. Go on a date at least twice per month, though once per week is ideal. Give each other 100% attention.

Marriage is an investment. If you do not add logs to the fire, it will burn out. Do something sweet for each other every day.

Truth

This may be the most difficult thing that you may face. Telling your spouse the truth, or hearing the truth.

Look at it this way, if you tell the trouth now, you will both get over it in a while and it will be in the past. If you do not, if you lie, you will have to live with the guilt, you'll have to keep lieing to keep the innitial lie hidden. Before you know the small lie you told has grown into a big problem. It will be harder to get out of it later.

Also when expecting a lie for an answer or suspecting that oen might lie, do not press for an answer. Make them feel comfortable telling you the trouth. This may not work this way at first but with practice it will be so much easier.

If you keep your marriage open and be honnest with each other you will feel so much closer together.

In this article I am sharring my point of view and my experiences in our marriage. I have only been married for seven years, yet we've been through a lot. We are more in love now then we have been when we got married.

Keep researching and studying marriage and relationship ideas. Read other peoples' experiences and advise. Filter out the stuff that doesn't work for you and keep adding to your marriage wisdom.

Share the values you have learned with your children when they start understanding this stuff. Have them learn from you, so when they grow up their memories of their parents will be of how much you loved each other and not what fights you had.

Good luck and God Bless.

Monday, May 01, 2006

Info I use

In my search of information on SEO i found a lot of good info but also there is loads of useless, outdated material out there. I find that buying books in a book store on any kind of internet business information is a waist of money. General information os good but so called "secrets" are no longer secrets. The books that are published even a year ago may already be outdated.

For the best information and the latest news on SEO or any other eBusiness is found online. On the internet blogs and forums. Where the information is updated hundreds of times per day.

I personally found a lot of great info on search engine optimization at www.seomoz.com and www.seochat.com. I am not related to those sites in any way except that I am a regular visitor to these sites for my own website success.

If you are in search for the SEO truth, go read the articles at www.seomoz.com. It is absolutely essential to your SEO success. www.seochat.com has a lot of useful tools that you van use to optimize your web site.

Thursday, April 06, 2006

Google Page Rank

Having success at blogging for profit is an art. I will share with you the steps to take to start a successful blog and do it right the first time.

First, use the Overture Search Term Tool to research your topic key words.

Next, start a new blog at blogger.com. Make sure you use a form of your keyword in the address, like this, if my key word is "oak tree" make your address something like "oak-tree-man.blogspot.com" or something. Also make your title contain the key word.

Start researching your topic if you don't know anything about it. I do suggest you stick with a topic that you know some things about. It will be more fun for you and you'll be able to take it through all the way.

Start writing. Post at least one new post per day. Make your "articles" interresting. Try to tell your story so it's not borring. Do not miss one day for the first 20 days or so. If you can, keep updating it every day untill your hands fall off. You'll have more success that way. No one likes a stale blog.

Find free articles that you can post if you can't write one up oen day. I will give you the address to all the resources at the end of this writing. Write original content for beter results. If you have to, read over an article you found in a magazine or a book and take veig notes. Do not copy over word for word. Just jot down ideas and maint points. When you're done with your notes, take a break or do something completely different, so you don't think about what you just read. After about 10 to 20 minutes of doing something else come back to your notes and start writing referring to your notes. This way you will have an original writing based on someone else's idea or an article.

Update your blog for 20 to 30 days, every day, even Saturdays and Sundays. Now you should have a good amount of information on your blog. You can now try to get listed at Google. The way to do that is to submit your blog's address to Google for indexing. You do that by going to www.google.com/addurl. Also submit one of your best writings to the sites I have links to at the very bottom of the resources page that I have a link to at the bottom of this article, they will be listed under the heading "Submit your articles to these sites".

Now we wait, and write some more. Next month you can update your blog every other day or 3 times a week if you have to. I recomend you keep updating it every day for better results. In about 45 to 55 days you should see your blog get hits from Google. To keep track of hits I recomend using WebStat at www.webstat.com. At the time of this writing, WebStat has a free account for sites that get less then 3000 hits per month.

By the time the 60th day rolls around your blog should be indexed and have a PageRank of 3 or more.

Here is the best eBusiness resource page: www.zloot.com/resources.html

Good luck!

SXSS means Success

SXSS stands for Success!